Online Holistic Relational Trauma Therapy for Adults Across Illinois

Relational Challenges

One minute you feel so seen. So connected. The next you're left wondering what happened, why you feel so powerless. So hurt. So betrayed. Your partner seems to constantly be irritated or angry with you. You've noticed the spark is gone from your relationship. Your confidence is at an all-time low. Your mind is working overtime, leaving you exhausted. You feel yourself sinking into an increasingly dark inner world.
Your mom compliments you, or does she? You’re not sure. With one statement you feel the wind knocked out of you and that familiar lump in your throat. She’s consistently showered your sibling with affection, and you get the left over droplets, even to this day. It hurts. You don’t want it to matter, but it does.
Your boss showered you with praise during your informal check-in yesterday, but this morning publicly humiliated you. She placed blame on you for someone else’s error, while redistributing the credit of your efforts to the favored colleague. Another day feeling powerless.

You may feel disconnected from a romantic partner, or left constantly questioning whether your mother or your father really love you, or repeatedly wondering if your boss will praise you or reprimand you. It's exhausting, and you're tired. You’re going through so much. You don’t have to carry all of this alone. I would be honored to walk beside you as we acknowledge your story, and partner in your wellness path.

We will unravel the patterns and dynamics that continue appearing in these challenging relationships, and focus on building you up. We’ll focus on you reconnecting with the love for yourself that's faded. We’ll acknowledge the pain, hurt, grief, anger and injustices surrounding your relational challenges, while partnering in ways to navigate these challenges in ways that are practical and powerful for your life and your specific circumstances.

Trauma

What is trauma? Trauma can take many forms. Trauma is subjective. Trauma speaks to your unique mind, body, spiritual response to a painful event, or ongoing events. This could be an experience that happened once that continues to live in your body, your mind, your spirit. This could be a collection of ongoing hurtful events that happened or continue to happen, and the pain continues to pour out of you. Perhaps your pain shows up in your body- feeling constantly "on edge," feeling startled easily, or sleep is restless with vivid dreams or difficulty falling asleep. Or maybe you worry about all of the "what ifs," impacting your desire to engage with the world. Your trauma is unique and is worth being held in a safe, supportive space.

Trauma therapy happens at your pace. We will first explore how to rebuild trust and safety within your mind, body, and spirit. This will be the foundation, and safety and trust are defined by you. This will be our framework, and may take many forms such as breathwork, mindfulness, honoring your story, and accepting all of your feelings as truth, for example. In rebuilding trust and safety from within, you can reconnect with your true self, recreating your story on your own terms.

Feeling anxious

It's the never ending to-do lists. The constant demands at work. Demands from your partner. Your family. It's the fear that nothing you do will ever be enough. It's the constant exhaustion. The anger. Rage. Despair. The tornado of feelings swirling around inside of you while you politely smile, OR the clear evidence of the tornado of emotions pouring out of you leaving you feeling out of control.

We can explore the roots of these overwhelming emotions, understand the "why," and move towards greater self love, acceptance. We will collaborate on strategies that best fit you to befriend your emotions, and authentically express them in an authentic, empowered manner.